True love is not the kind of thing you should turn down, don’t ever turn it down

Christians get it so wrong about marriage and the LGBTQ demographic.

2 people wanting to commit to each other and spend their lives together isn’t going to destroy marriage

Plenty of other things do that

A mother and father who decide not to get married. Their jobs don’t give them health benefits so they avoid being legally connected to keep state Medicaid benefits. And they both have to work to make ends meet. Just enough work mind you; not too much or they lose the benefits

That destroys the institution of marriage

Individuals treating their spouse like garbage. Beating them, degrading them, abusing them in every way conceivable. And then we as a society heap guilt on the spouse that chooses to leave that situation. Making them feel like a failure; like they’ve failed God.

That ruins the institution of marriage

Defending powerful politicians who have affairs or abandon their spouses. Politicians from any side of the aisle. Defending them out of fear that your side will lose its position of authority and influence if you become vocal and critical

That destroys the institution of marriage

Marriage is a manifestation of the greatest commandments

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” -Matthew 22:37-40

Marriage should be the most intimate example of that love

The clearest and most ideal model for us all to follow in our relationships with others

A relationship that is

Always uplifting
Never abusive
Always compassionate
Never cruel
Always forgiving
Never exploitative
Always restorative
Never disparaging
Always humble
Never arrogant

Show me a relationship like that and I’ll be looking at everything a marriage should be

I could care less
what the individuals look like
what the individuals’ sexual orientation is
what pronouns they use

I don’t care what kind of tree the fruit grows on, just that the fruit itself isn’t a poison to the people who grow it

I’m certain that God doesn’t care either

(the title of this post is from an Avett Brothers song)

Bearing fruit is a ridiculously common Christian metaphor. It’s in the Bible a lot, though I do think it gets overused.

Even so, it IS a good metaphor, so I’ll use it again.

When it comes to marriage and other relationships, you’ll here a lot of people talk about traditional marriage or maybe Godly marriage. I say, be critical of those who disguise their words in tradition and authority and ask yourself this; when you look at a relationship how does it effect the people in it? The people influenced by it? Does it bear good fruit? Or bad fruit?

Because every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.

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